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Spare me the God talk about spanking and stop abusing kids in your church

Physical abuse that went by spanking was mandated at my church growing up. Elders there convinced my parents, who did not want to spank, that they had to for religious and political reasons, and they gave very harsh instructions. They went to town. I started getting migraines young, and now i get 3 to 7 migraines a week. No one has any excuse for hitting a child. Evidence that spanking or physical abuse is harmful isn't new, but psychology was dismissed as a liberal conspiracy (along with evolution and global warming) against God fearing conservatives.

In my first letter about a year ago, pasted below, I asked for an apology. That's all. My folks apologized, took responsibility, expressed regret, said they had uncritically gone along with what everyone was saying and doing, but the men who taught them to abuse and established a culture of abuse at Church Creek in the 80s and 90s have so far refused to apologize or allow me to speak to them in person at a session (church board…


Flogged is my endeavor to stop the harsh spanking -- really flogging! -- of children that has been promoted by the Christian Right over the last 40 years and has bruised many adults with chronic pain, intrusive thoughts, and mood disorders, among other symptoms of physical abuse and religious trauma.

As a flogging victim myself, I feel especially called to share my story publically and speak out against the authoritarian fear and control some people exert over others through their insistence that spanking is a measure of parents' Christian commitment and the only way to ensure children grow up to be good citizens.

I speak up for those attacked by fundamentalists' hateful messages: "weaklings" who favor gentler parenting; "quacks" with "unbiblical" science and psychology; "pansies" with nonconforming sexual orientation and gender identity; and "delinquents," disproportionately singled-out struggling adolescents of color, used…